When Losing a Pet Feels Like Losing Family

 

What happens when losing a pet feels like losing part of yourself?

In this episode, Jennifer Muldowney sits down with Adam Greenbaum, founder of Love Baxter, to talk about the kind of grief people often struggle to explain out loud. Adam shares the story of Baxter, the dog who stayed beside him through the hardest years of his life, from building a company to the quiet moments most people never see. When Baxter suddenly became sick, Adam and his wife spent months fighting to save him, only to lose him days after being told he had “beaten” his illness.

What followed was something Adam never expected. He searched everywhere for support, answers, and guidance around pet loss, only to realize how invisible this kind of grief still is. No roadmap. No real support system. No place for people carrying heartbreak that feels just as real as losing a family member.

What makes this conversation powerful is not just the story of Baxter. It’s the reminder that pets become part of our routines, our identity, and our emotional safety. They are there through loneliness, stress, heartbreak, and joy without judgment or conditions. And when they’re gone, the silence they leave behind can change everything.

Key Topics:

- Why losing a pet can feel as painful as losing a family member

- Building emotional support systems for people grieving the loss of a pet

- The hidden reality of pet grief that most people do not talk about

- Creating better guidance and resources for families facing pet loss

- Understanding the deep emotional bond between humans and their pets

Quotes from the episode:

“There’s no funeral, there’s no blueprint, there’s no community rallying around you when your pet dies.”

— Jennifer Muldowney

I spent my whole life trying to be good enough… and in that moment, I realized I already was.

— Adam Greenbaum

Timestamps:

[02:24] Baxter’s Rescue Story: Adam shares how he found Baxter in a neglected home and brought him into his life.

[04:28] The Dog Who Stayed Beside Him: Adam reflects on how Baxter was there through long workdays, stress, and quiet moments.

[05:13] Fighting to Save Baxter: Adam opens up about Baxter’s final months, the costly treatments, and the heartbreak of losing him days after being told he was okay.

[07:08] Finding No Support After Loss: After Baxter died, Adam searched for pet grief resources and found almost nothing.

[08:04] Why Love Baxter Exists: Adam explains how he built Love Baxter to connect grieving pet owners with support, guidance, and trusted resources.

[08:48] Searching for Comfort After Death: Adam shares how grief led him to look for anything that could help him feel closer to Baxter.

[10:23] When Pet Owners Are Left Alone: Adam talks about the gap between saying pets are family and actually supporting families after loss.

[12:03] Why Pet Grief Feels So Invisible: Jennifer and Adam discuss how pet loss often comes without leave, rituals, or community support.

[16:08] Love Without Baggage: Adam explains why pets leave such a deep mark, they love fully and become part of everyday life.

[19:20] Turning Pain Into Purpose: Jennifer and Adam talk about helping grieving families because the work truly matters.

[22:21] Valuing Grief Work: Adam explains why people who support families through loss deserve to be paid fairly.

[29:13] Listening Before Selling: Adam shares why death care should start with understanding the family, not pushing services.

[34:46] Helping Children Through Pet Loss: Adam reveals that many families search for guidance on how to help kids grieve a pet.

[36:56] Honoring a Pet the Right Way: Adam ends with a reminder that saying goodbye to a beloved pet should be handled with care.

Connect with Adam Greenbaum at:

Websites - lovebaxter.com
beacons.ai

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Turning Grief Into Art: A Powerful Way to Understand Death & Healing

In this episode, Jennifer Muldowney sits down with Jill Greenbaum to explore a different approach to one of life’s hardest conversations, death, loss, and everything we struggle to put into words. Jill introduces the idea that drawing, even in its simplest form, can help people communicate what they feel when language falls short.

Because here’s the truth most people overlook. Words disappear. Conversations get forgotten. But when something is placed visually in front of you, it stays. It becomes something you can return to, reflect on, and understand more clearly. Whether it’s imagining your end of life, mapping out your wishes, or simply processing grief, visuals create space for honesty in a way that talking sometimes can’t.

What makes this conversation powerful isn’t just creativity. It’s the shift in perspective. You don’t need to be an artist. You don’t need to get it right. You just need a way to express what matters. And in a world where people are overwhelmed, burnt out, and often disconnected from their own emotions, something as simple as drawing might be the most honest form of communication we have.

Key Topics:

-Using visual storytelling to make death, grief, and loss easier to talk about

-Turning simple drawings into a powerful tool for communication

-Creating visual obituaries to reflect on life, legacy, and meaning

-Processing grief through creativity, ritual, and personal expression

-Making end-of-life conversations more accessible and easier to understand

Quotes from the episode:

“There is music and there is art in everyone.”

— Jennifer Muldowney

“What I'm teaching people to do is not about making art, which is wonderful, but it is about communication.”

— Jill Greenbaum

Timestamps:

[01:39] From Education to Visual Storytelling: Jill shares how her background in teaching, curriculum development, and creativity led her into visual practice.

[02:11] Drawing Your Thoughts, Questions, and Plans: Jill explains how simple marks can help people express what they are thinking, even when they believe they “can’t draw.”

[03:16] Visualizing End of Life Issues: Jill shares how a group of women came together to use visual storytelling as a more accessible way to talk about dying, death, grief, and loss.

[04:10] Creating a Visual Story of Your End of Life: Jill explains the Lifting the Lid workshop, where people used prompts to imagine where they want to be, who they want with them, and what their final wishes may look like.

[07:41] It’s Not About Making Art, It’s About Communication: Jill makes a powerful point that drawing does not have to be beautiful, it just has to help people express what matters.

[09:49] How Visuals Help Funeral Professionals and Families: Jill explains how funeral directors, death doulas, and families can use drawings to make end-of-life wishes clearer and easier to remember.

[12:19] Creating Your Visual Obituary: Jill talks about helping people draw the highlights, challenges, and meaningful parts of their lives through visual obituaries.

[13:17] Impermanent Earth Art and Morning Altars: Jill shares how nature, grief, and creativity can come together through temporary art that reflects the shortness of life.

[14:52] When Pet Loss Opens a New Path: Jill shares how losing her dog led her toward pet loss and bereavement chaplaincy work.

[19:56] We Are the Artists of Our Lives: Jill reflects on how creativity is not limited to traditional art, but also shows up in the choices, rituals, and practices that help us heal.

[21:56] Why People Need to Know Their End-of-Life Options: Jill talks about the importance of education, informed choices, medical aid in dying, and newer options like human composting.

[24:42] Self-Care for People Working Around Death and Grief: Jill discusses burnout in care-based fields and why self-care cannot only fall on individuals, systems also need to become more responsive.

Connect with Jill Greenbaum at:

Website: www.jillgreenbaum.com
Email: jill@jillgreenbaum.com

Social media accounts: https://www.instagram.com/jillig/

https://www.facebook.com/jill.greenbaum

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillrgreenbaum/

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Finding Peace in the Afterlife: How Grief Can Transform Into Healing

What if the healing you’ve been chasing for years… could happen in a single moment?

In this episode, Jennifer Muldowney sits down with Dr. Irene to explore something deeply human, the need for closure, connection, and peace after loss. Irene shares her work around the psychomanteum, a quiet, sensory-deprived space designed to help people feel close to loved ones who have passed. But what unfolds in that space isn’t always what you’d expect.

Some people feel a presence. Some see colors or images. And some don’t experience anything at all. Yet what’s consistent is this, something shifts. Irene opens up about her own experience, where a lifelong need for her father’s approval simply… disappeared. Not because she saw him, but because something inside her finally let go.

What makes this conversation powerful isn’t just the idea of connecting with the afterlife. It’s the reminder that so much of what we carry, grief, anger, longing, is waiting to be released. And sometimes, all we really need is the space to face it honestly..

Key Topics:

-Processing grief and emotional pain through immersive experiences

-Letting go of the need for validation from loved ones who have passed

-Creating space to express unspoken words and unresolved feelings

-Understanding how inner healing can happen without external confirmation

-Exploring alternative ways people seek connection, closure, and peace

Quotes from the episode:

“There is no white knight on a white horse coming to rescue you, you have to rescue yourself.”

— Jennifer Muldowney

I spent my whole life trying to be good enough… and in that moment, I realized I already was.

— Irene Blinston

Timestamps:

[01:05] The Research Behind Contacting the Dead: Irene explains how her work in transpersonal psychology led her to study the psychomanteum, a sensory-deprivation chamber designed to help grieving people connect with loved ones who have passed.

[02:20] 92% of Participants Felt Their Grief Reduce: The astonishing research result behind the book, showing that most participants experienced meaningful relief, and that the change lasted over time.

[03:12] What Actually Happens Inside the Chamber: Some people felt a presence. Others saw colors, symbols, images, or even apparitions. This is where the episode moves from theory into the truly fascinating.

[09:08] The Father Wound That Healed in One Session: Irene shares the deeply personal moment that changed her life, releasing a lifelong need for her father’s approval and replacing it with something far more powerful.

[13:11] No One Is Coming to Rescue You: A moving reflection on self-worth, healing, and the hard truth that real peace begins when you stop waiting for validation from other people.

[14:10] Who This Experience Is Not For: An important and grounded discussion on safety, mental health screening, and why this kind of work must be handled with great care.

[16:28] She Didn’t See Her Father, She Finally Said What She Needed To Say: One of the most powerful insights in the episode, showing that healing does not always come from contact, sometimes it comes from finally releasing what was trapped inside.

[19:06] Becoming Your Own Medium: Irene explains what makes this work so different, and why having the experience yourself can be more powerful than hearing messages through someone else.

[21:05] Can This Become a Real Healing Practice?: Irene shares her vision for rebuilding, training facilitators, and turning this rare work into something more available for people who are grieving.

Connect with Dr. Irene Blinston at:

Websites -support@portaltohealinggrief.com

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Behind The Profession: The Mental Heath Toll of Funeral Work

What happens when the people who stand beside grief every day are expected to carry it quietly?

In this episode, Jennifer Muldowney sits down with Dwight Thompson, a former funeral director turned therapist, for a deeply honest conversation about the emotional toll of working in death care. Having lived both roles, Dwight speaks with real understanding about what funeral professionals hold day after day, the sorrow they witness, the stories they carry, and the parts of themselves they often have to set aside just to keep going.

Together, they talk about how little support exists for the mental health of people in funeral service, and how often their pain goes unseen. They explore the silence, the stigma, and the weight of doing work that asks so much from the heart while giving so little room to process it. This episode also shines a light on the importance of community, shared understanding, and spaces like Funeral Professional Peer Support where people can finally feel less alone.

Tune in for a moving conversation about grief, compassion, and what it means to care for others when no one has taught you how to care for yourself.

Key Topics:

- The hidden mental health toll of funeral work

- Why funeral professionals often suffer in silence

- The lack of real support for people in death care

- How stigma keeps funeral directors in the shadows

- The need for research, resources, and peer support in funeral service

Quotes from the episode:

“If we would just face the fact that we are dying, we live better and we love more.”

— Jennifer Muldowney

“No one in these mental health spaces are talking about funeral directors. And that to me is alarming."

— Dwight Thompson

Timestamps:

[01:43] Funeral Professionals Are Human Too and why people in death care carry their own grief as well

[03:18] Dwight’s Full Circle Journey from funeral directing and embalming into psychotherapy

[06:18] “That’s Me” and the moment Dwight saw his own story in other funeral directors’ mental health struggles

[06:49] A $274 Paycheck and a Therapist Who Didn’t Understand the reality of seeking help without being understood

[08:37] An Alarming Gap in Training and why funeral directors are still missing from mental health education

[09:36] First Responders vs Funeral Directors and why the comparison does not fully fit

[12:13] Borrowed Solutions and Missing Research in funeral directors’ mental health care

[14:31] The Dark Corner of Careers and why funeral service remains overlooked and misunderstood

[17:58] Death Care as Dirty Work and the stigma attached to working around death

[19:38] Why Are We Still So Death Denying and what that says about society’s discomfort with mortality

[21:20] The Healing Power of Peer Support and why shared experience matters so much

[23:26] A Branding Problem and why valuable support can still go unnoticed

[27:28] Business Culture and Silence in the funeral sector and how all three affect mental health support

[33:02] The System Cannot Fix Itself and why outside expertise may be needed

[36:26] What Comes Next and the wider conversations still needed in funeral service

Connect with Dwight Thompson at:

Website: https://www.funeralpeersupport.ca/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dwight-thompson-msw-rsw-rmft-s-31160621a/

Email: dwight@ottawapsychotherapyservices.ca

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Painting Through Pet Loss: Why I Picked Up a Brush for Roxy and Poppy

Grief shows up in strange ways. One minute you’re fine, the next you’re crying in the pet aisle because you saw their favorite treats. Or scrolling through Etsy for hours, trying to find the perfect portrait that captures the sparkle of your beloved furry friend.

That’s exactly what I was doing in 2024 looking for something to honor Roxy and Poppy. I wanted a piece of art for my new home. But the more I searched, the more I realized nothing felt like them or like me with them. OR they were too expensive for my budget. And then I got an idea….

What if I painted it myself?

I haven’t really painted in years, at least not seriously. But the thought of creating something for them with my own hands felt…. Meaningful. Personal. A little terrifying of course and also I wasn’t sure Id have the skills anymore. I used to draw horses and Disney characters, rarely humans and had never tried dogs. I didn’t want to do them a disservice so I had another idea…..how about paint by numbers?! Now don’t laugh because it does sound childish but when I sent off the photo I curated of the two of them (their lives didn’t cross over each others) and received the piece back, I nearly died at the intricacy of all the colors and numbers – tiiiiiiny spots had numbers in it.

I got to work.

Every weekend I did a few more numbers until just this past Christmas I was able to finish it and I am so pleased with the results. I recorded a time lapse most of the times I painted. It was SO cathartic and the end result was as accurate the photo as it could be, I definitely wouldn’t have been able to accomplish the same result freehand. I was thrilled.

Why Art Feels Like the Right Path

I’ve read a lot about art therapy over the years. As someone who lives and works in the world of grief, I know how powerful creativity can be as a form of expression. Art helps bypass the analytical mind and go straight to the heart. It doesn’t require answers or solutions. Just a willingness to feel and explore. The paint by numbers situation allowed the controlling perfectionist in me to create something I could be proud of (and want to display) and the creativity of simply putting brush to canvas was so relaxing and meditative.

The result? I love it. I wanted to paint Roxy and Poppy not just how they looked, but how they felt. Their energy. Their quirks. Their place in my life and heart. The photos I chose of them and blended and the chosen background, all reflect me and them and I couldn’t be happier.

Not an Artist? Doesn’t Matter.

You don’t have to be anyway good at art to do this. This isn’t about creating a gallery-worthy piece, its just for me and because the hard work has been done for you, you just have to show up. It’s about sitting with grief in a way that’s active, but gentle, meditative and deeply connected. I turned on some Disney classics – don’t ask me why, this just felt right and I cried and I concentrated. A weird tribute maybe but a slow, sacred, splattered kind of love letter it became.

If You’re Grieving A Furry One Too...

Maybe you're not ready to paint. Maybe your creative style looks like journaling, or building a photo collage, or writing a poem. That’s beautiful too. There’s no “right” way to remember a pet. There’s just your way.

But if the idea of picking up a brush or pen or piece of clay whispers something to you, I encourage you to follow it. You don’t have to show anyone. You don’t have to be “good.” You just have to start. I have learned a lot recently about the act of starting over seeking perfection.

And if you do start, know that you’re not alone. I’m over here, surrounded by tissues staring at my painting where I tried to capture two of the cutest and sweetest souls, I’ve ever known Roxy and Poppy.

They were worth every brushstroke. And so is your baby.