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Saturday 24 February 2024

63 creative ideas for memorial planning or funeral arrangements

 Here are 63 creative ideas we have curated for memorial planning or funeral arrangements:

  1. Release balloons in their favorite color or with messages attached.
  2. Arrange for a dove release ceremony.
  3. Write and share personal letters or notes in a memory jar.
  4. Set up a memory wall with notes and letters from friends and family.
  5. Hold a candle lighting ceremony where attendees each light a candle in memory.
  6. Create a scrapbook with memories and stories from friends and family.
  7. Organize a memorial walk or run for a cause in their honor.
  8. Arrange for a sand ceremony where participants pour sand (maybe from different locations?) into a vessel to symbolize unity.
  9. Conduct a memorial service at a meaningful location, such as a park or beach.
  10. Arrange for a fireworks display in their favorite colors or at a special location.
  11. Create a memorial video game or board game based on their interests.
  12. Have a themed memorial where attendees dress in the person's favorite colors or attire.
  13. Host a cooking or baking event with their favorite recipes.
  14. Create a time capsule filled with memories, letters, and items to be opened in the future.
  15. Arrange for a skywriting tribute with a message in their honor.
  16. Organize a group activity or game they enjoyed, such as a sports tournament or trivia night.
  17. Display their artwork or creative projects in an exhibition.
  18. Create a charitable foundation or scholarship in their name.
  19. Commission a piece of sculpture in their memory.
  20. Create a digital memorial website or blog where people can share memories and stories.
  21. Hold a memorial poetry reading or storytelling event.
  22. Create a personalized memorial bench at a favorite spot.
  23. Host a movie night featuring their favorite films or documentaries.
  24. Organize a book drive or library donation in their honor.
  25. Arrange for a hot air balloon ride in their memory.
  26. Create a memorial puzzle with a favorite photo or image.
  27. Organize a picnic or outdoor gathering in their favorite park.
  28. Host a themed dinner party with their favorite foods and drinks.
  29. Set up a memorial art installation or sculpture in a public space.
  30. Hold a remembrance ceremony at sunrise or sunset.
  31. Hold an ash scattering ceremony in their favorite park/beach.
  32. Organize a talent show or open mic night showcasing the deceased talents and interests.
  33. Arrange for a sky lantern release at dusk.
  34. Host a beach or lakefront memorial with a floating candle ceremony.
  35. Create a personalized memory bracelet or jewelry for attendees.
  36. Organize a community service project or volunteer day in their memory.
  37. Host a charity auction or fundraiser to support causes they cared about.
  38. Arrange for a star-naming ceremony in their honor.
  39. Hold a meditation or mindfulness session in their memory.
  40. Organize a memorial bike ride or hike at a scenic location.
  41. Arrange for a mural painting or street art project dedicated to their memory.
  42. Host a scavenger hunt featuring locations or items related to their life.
  43. Create a podcast series featuring stories and memories shared by friends and family.
  44. Arrange for a musical tribute concert with performers playing their favorite songs
  45. Arrange for a butterfly release ceremony.
  46. Create a memorial recipe book featuring their favorite dishes and family recipes.
  47. Organize a community cleanup or beautification project in their honor.
  48. Host a grief writing workshop.
  49. Arrange for a memorial fishing trip or boat ride.
  50. Host a sports tournament in their honor with their favorite games or activities.
  51. Arrange for a star-gazing event or visit to an observatory.
  52. Hold a storytelling circle where people share their favorite memories.
  53. Organize a themed photo booth with props related to their interests.
  54. Arrange for a special performance by a choir or musical group.
  55. Host a craft-making event where attendees create items in memory of the person.
  56. Host a memorial bonfire where attendees share stories and memories.
  57. Create a custom-designed memorial flag or banner.
  58. Host a poetry slam event with poems inspired by their life.
  59. Host a film screening of movies that held special meaning to them.
  60. Arrange for a personalized bench swing at a favorite spot.
  61. Host a nature walk or wildlife tour in their memory.
  62. Host a karaoke night featuring their favorite songs and music.
  63. Arrange for a custom-made memorial sculpture or statue. 
These ideas can be adapted and combined to create a meaningful and personalized memorial or funeral service to honor the life and legacy of your loved one. You can do some if not most of them yourself or you can hire any of our incredible vendors (or us) to help you implement them so you can work on yourself, your family and your grief. Sending warmth to you in this journey. 

Monday 19 February 2024

Mindful Transcendence: Embracing Life's Realities Through Meditation of Death

Embarking on a journey of meditation often leads us to profound realizations about life and our existence. 

A Tibetan Buddhist tradition contains an effective meditation called the nine-point meditation on death. It is presented with three root truths, three reasons for each truth, and three conclusions that follow from them:

Root: Death is certain.
1. No being has ever escaped death].
2. I am constantly becoming closer to death.
3. There is not much time to practice Dharma*
Conclusion: I must practice Dharma

Root: The time of death is uncertain.
4. The lifespan of the human being is not fixed.
5. More conditions endanger life than support it.
6. This body is extremely fragile.
Conclusion: I must practice Dharma now.

Root: Nothing can help at the time of death except my Dharma practice.
7. Wealth can't help.
8. Friends and relatives can't help.
9. Your body can't help.
Conclusion: I must practice Dharma purely.

In the realm of mindfulness and self-discovery, this framework guides practitioners through a profound contemplation on life, death, and the essence of being. 

Each of these nine points offers a pathway to introspection, inviting individuals to explore the inevitability of death, the uncertainty of its timing, and the transformative power of spiritual practice. 

Understanding the Structure
There are different approaches to meditating on the nine points, each offering its own insights and depth of understanding. One method involves meditating on all nine points in a single session. Alternatively, one might choose to dedicate one session to each point detailed above. Another option is to focus on the 3 points in 3 separate sessions: acknowledging the inevitability of death, recognizing the uncertainty of its timing, and understanding the role of spiritual practice in facing it.

Preparing for Meditation
Before delving into the meditation itself, it's crucial to create a conducive environment. Find a comfortable position, straighten your back, and allow your body to relax. Take a few moments to ground yourself in the present, shedding thoughts of the past and future. Settle your mind on the chosen topic for the meditation session.

Cultivating Motivation
As your mind settles into the present moment, cultivate a positive motivation for your meditation practice. Reflect on the aspiration for greater peace and happiness for all beings. Consider how your meditation can contribute to your own enlightenment and the well-being of others.

Exploring the Nine Points

The Inevitability of Death
  • Contemplate the certainty of death, a reality often overlooked amidst life's distractions. 
  • Reflect on the lives of those who have passed before us, recognizing that death is an inevitable part of the human experience.
  • Consider the fleeting nature of life and the urgency to engage in spiritual practice.

The Uncertainty of the Time of Death
  • Acknowledge the unpredictable nature of death's timing. 
  • Life's brevity reminds us of its preciousness. 
  • Reflect on the myriad causes of death and the fragility of the human body. 
  • Embrace the uncertainty as a catalyst for living with intention and purpose.

The Role of Spiritual Practice
  • Recognize that worldly possessions and relationships cannot accompany us beyond death. 
  • Only our mind, enriched with positive imprints, transcends the boundaries of mortality. 
  • Cultivate virtues such as compassion, patience, and wisdom, laying the foundation for a peaceful transition.

Reflection and Dedication

As the meditation draws to a close, reflect on the insights gained and the potential for personal growth. Dedicate the merit of your practice to the well-being of all sentient beings, fostering a sense of interconnectedness and compassion.

In conclusion, the meditation on the nine points offers an opportunity for introspection. By embracing the inevitability of death, acknowledging its uncertainty, and cultivating spiritual practice, we can navigate life's journey with wisdom and compassion, ultimately finding peace in the face of mortality.


*Dharma is a concept with deep roots in Eastern philosophy, particularly in Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, and Sikhism. While its interpretation varies among these traditions, at its core, dharma embodies the principles of duty, righteousness, and cosmic order.

Overall, dharma transcends religious boundaries and serves as a guiding principle for righteous living, moral conduct, and spiritual fulfillment across diverse cultural and philosophical contexts. It embodies the harmony between individual duties, societal responsibilities, and cosmic order, aiming to foster a sense of unity, balance, and interconnectedness in the world.

Wednesday 24 January 2024

Outsider’s perspective of the funeral industry

Hi everyone ๐Ÿ‘‹! I'm Anna, a guest writer on Jennifer’s blog ๐Ÿ’ซ! I’m here to provide an outsider’s perspective on the funeral industry. My professional journey has been in finance & strategy at tech startups (very different, I know!); but, after I lost my mom in 2016, I’ve become fascinated with the deathcare space and passionate about making the end-of-life process easier for families. Now in 2024, I find myself in the process of discovering my path within the industry and also serendipitously crossing paths with Jennifer! 

Last week, Jennifer & I hit up the Trend ReCON conference hosted by Tribute Tech. Tribute is a leading tech company in the funeral space that builds websites, case management software, and other tools for funeral homes. This was Tribute’s second year hosting Trend ReCON, a small conference where they invited speakers and hosted fireside chats to review & present new technology. Lecture topics ranged from reminding funeral directors of the importance of digital marketing to providing a crash course on how to use ChatGPT. 

As an outsider, I found the conference really helpful in understanding a unique & niche industry a little bit better. Here are some of my key takeaways:

  • Confirmed, the funeral industry appears to be very technologically behind.
  • Many funeral homes still don’t have a website and rely on word-of-mouth and community referrals. To put it into perspective, Google and SEO activity exploded ~20 years ago. 
  • For the funeral homes that are tech savvy, they will at the very least have a website, maybe Quickbooks, and maybe case management software. 
  • The pandemic forced funeral homes to become more tech savvy. 
  • It was a necessary change that is here to stay. 
  • The pandemic pressured funeral homes to create websites and offer virtual live streaming. Even now post-pandemic, virtual attendance is increasing while physical attendance & visitations are decreasing.
  • Although the landing page is important for funeral homes to advertise their business, the obituary page is their goldmine.
  • On average, an obituary receives 200 views. 60% are 45+ years old, 60% are female, and the majority are within 15 miles. This means that obituary viewers should be funeral homes’ target leads for at-need and pre-need.
  • The funeral industry is very short-staffed. This is an acute & persistent problem across the industry.
  • The funeral industry has shifted from an employer’s market to an employee’s market. The space is paying employees more than ever, but there is just not enough supply to meet demand. 
  • What’s interesting though is that in 2021, overall enrollment in mortuary school jumped by 24% indicating an increasing interest in the space.
  • Succession planning will be a problem. I predict more consolidation over the next few years.
  • 60% of funeral directors will retire in the next 5 years. Most will have issues finding a successor and will probably get acquired.
  • The fragmented industry has just started getting consolidated in the last few years (20% of funeral homes are owned by consolidators). Right now, consolidators are focused on scaling their portfolio, but more consolidation will come in the next few years. 

I hope you found this post interesting. Leave a comment if you have any thoughts, questions, or input into what you think the future of tech is for the funeral industry!


~ Anna






Saturday 20 January 2024

A Cinematic Odyssey: Saltburn's Grief Scene and a Wuthering Heights connection

If you haven't seen it then STOP, go and watch it! 

Diving into the heart-wrenching yet beautifully crafted world of Saltburn, with a special focus on the soul-stirring grief scene that unfolds at the graveside. 

Saltburn, a cinematic masterpiece, takes us on an incredibly boundary pushing and profound journey through life, love, and, inevitably, loss. 

As the characters gather around the graveside, the scene is bathed in a soft, melancholic light, and the weight of loss hangs heavily in the air. The filmmakers' attention to detail is palpable, capturing the essence of grief in its rawest form. But once the family leave Oliver, it becomes no typical movie grief scene – it's a moment that challenges the boundaries of expression.

Barry Keoghan's portrayal of Oliver in this scene is nothing short of masterful. In the aftermath of Felix's funeral, Oliver grapples with the heaviness of the situation. The weight of loss becomes overwhelming, and in a moment of profound vulnerability, Oliver removes his shirt and collapses onto the freshly filled grave unbuttoning his trousers to relieve himself of the pent-up sexual tension he's been holding on to.

The scene takes an unexpected turn as Oliver, consumed by grief and obsession, engages in an unsettling ritual to bid farewell to his beloved Felix. Instead of conventional tributes, Oliver fully undresses and lies face down on the freshly-laid gravesoil. This disturbing yet intriguing act serves as an unconventional expression of love, loss, and extreme hopelessness. But is it so 'out there'? I don't think so. I think people who have seen grief and lived in it know how dark, how bizarre, how weird your thoughts and actions can get (or feel). To see this on screen, in a popular medium with great actors was incredible. Grief is UNIQUE.

In an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Barry Keoghan sheds light on the scene's evolution. Originally meant to stop at touching the dirt, Keoghan and writer/director Emerald Fennell decided to push the boundaries further. Keoghan explains, "It wasn’t about f@%king the grave, it was more about I don’t know what to do with this obsession; it’s making me confused and making me unhuman in a way. It was a total discovery for him, I think. And it was sad. It was very, very sad."

Emerald Fennell describes “It is troubling, it’s about grief, it is about the horror of grief and the horror of love. It comes directly from the Gothic tradition because there’s a scene in Wuthering Heights, one of my favourite books of all time, where Heathcliff digs down to get to Cathy’s coffin and the subtext is very much to do a similar thing. So what we have in the film is not completely outlandish given the genre. So much of Oliver’s desire cannot be sated, what he really wants is not possible, and even in the end it’s not possible.”

While Saltburn's grief scene transcends traditional movie boundaries, it invites audiences to explore the multifaceted nature of human emotions which is something we have previously kept closeted away when it comes to grief. Another movie that came to our screens in a similar timing was Good Grief and for me that did less for grieving in the modern day than Saltburn who showed is grief in its raw form - the only form there is.

BUT I will say, any movie or popular medium that deals with grief, loss, death, funerals and bereavement is a winner in. my book because it is being TALKED about and that is all we can ask for. Grief is unique for us all.


As a side note, has anyone read Alix Strauss Joy of Funerals? More on this to come. Rereading it again but it gave me Saltburn grief vibes!

Friday 12 January 2024

Embracing Life's Journey: A Positive Perspective on Death

As someone deeply involved in the world of memorial planning (and therefore death), I want to share thoughts on how we can approach death with a positive mindset, drawing from my experiences and the unique pillars of my company Muldowney Memorials.


The Rollercoaster of Farewell

Death – it's something we all face in one way or another, shaping our lives in profound ways. In my journey within the funeral industry, I've witnessed a spectrum of attitudes towards death. Some see it as a chance for transformation, while others navigate it with coping mechanisms. Dying, at its core, is transformative and profound. To make it a positive transition, acceptance of death before it comes becomes crucial.


Dealing with the Dreads

Coping with the anxiety surrounding death involves recognizing the different stages of grief, as proposed by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and further developed by many more incredible authors, researchers and grief experiencers. Additionally, there are various approaches to death acceptance – from staying neutral to taking it head-on or seeking an escape. It's like a rollercoaster ride, with ups and downs, twists and turns.


Finding Peace in Acceptance

Acceptance is the key, my friends. It's about letting go of attachments and finding that spiritual connection. Whether it's reflecting on life, embracing your true self, or diving into your spiritual beliefs – there are different paths to acceptance. It's like the Buddhist perspective that says to solve the problem of death; we must live a fulfilling life.


Unpacking the Fears of Death Anxiety

Let's be real; death can be a scary thought. The fear of the unknown, the finality of it all, and the worries about pain and loneliness can weigh heavily on our minds. Our society tends to shy away from facing mortality, opting instead to prolong life through various means. But what if we flipped the script and embraced the inevitable?


Adding Some Positive Spice

Let's sprinkle in some positive psychology with the meaning management model. We all crave meaning, especially when faced with the tough stuff like death. Engaging in meaning management deepens our faith and spirituality, creating a robust framework that shields us from the fear of death. It's not just reframing; it's a total reconstruction of our values and beliefs.


Embracing Life and Death

In the memorial planning world, embracing a life of meaning echoes in our dying moments. It's about leaving behind a legacy that truly means something. By living a life of significance, we set the stage for a departure that's not just an end but a celebration of what we've created. Faith, hope, and courage – they pave the way for a life well-lived and a death embraced.


A Paradox Worth Exploring

Our attitudes toward death don't just shape our individual lives; they influence the future of our society. Whether we choose to face death with fear or hope significantly impacts how we live. So, let's ponder the essence of life and death – what truly matters is living a life of meaning. Embracing death with faith gives us courage and an enduring sense of hope. 

In accepting and understanding death's significance, we gain wisdom, courage, and an unyielding hope. After all, life is a paradox – seizing each day like it's our last while striving to do good for a hundred years. ๐ŸŒŸ

~Jennifer

Friday 5 January 2024

The Surge in Demand for Celebrants in Funeral Services

Celebrants are becoming an increasingly sought-after presence in funeral services. But what's driving this noticeable rise in demand?

Primarily, the surge is in the category of families who lack church affiliation and seek a non-religious funeral experience also known as 'none'. The nones account for a large portion of Americans, 30% of U.S. adults who claim no religious affiliation in a survey by The Associated Press-NORC Center for Public Affairs Research.

Additionally, the burgeoning popularity of cremation has reshaped expectations. Families are no longer satisfied with traditional services. Opting for cremation grants them liberty to design a personalized tribute using (or not) the remains in an urn. Funeral professionals often hear that for cremation families, their presence is deemed optional. Funeral homes offering Celebrants witness a retention of these families within their fold. Celebrants cater precisely to a families unique needs while maintaining a connection to the funeral home. 

Moreover, an increasing number of funeral homes, particularly larger corporations, have embraced Celebrants as a standard service option for all families, integrating it into their General Price List (GPL). This integration has resulted in a noticeable uptick in revenue and heightened client satisfaction. 

Testimonial from a real life celebrant consumer

"I can not tell you what a Godsend Muldowney Memorials was to my family when my cousin unexpectedly passed away. I was from the West Coast, and knew nothing about how to do a funeral that was zoomed from the funeral home in New York to 3 different time zones to people from all over the country. Jennifer, Mikey and Siobhan were just incredible. They were so kind and professional. The service turned out beautifully, the sound and visual presentation were spot on (thanks, Mikey) and Siobahn did a beautiful eulogy. I felt like they really honored my cousin. I am truly touched at what wonderful human beings they all were. Best money I ever spent, but more importantly, they took a huge burden off my shoulders in a kind, honest, and professional way. Muldowney Memorials has my highest recommendations."

Positive experiences shared among business owners have further fueled the acceptance and interest in incorporating Celebrants into their firms. Beyond simply officiating funerals, Muldowney Memorial Celebrants offer families additional services like:

Collaborative Creation: Celebrants view their role as a collaborative and creative process shared with the family. Each word spoken is 100% approved by the family before the service and each script is meticulously crafted by the celebrant based on the family's shared experiences. 

Family Meetings: These gatherings are pivotal and healing. Spanning one to three hours, they serve as an opportunity to collect stories, allowing for the design of a personalized service for the departed. Beyond that, these meetings provide families with a platform to collectively share stories, commence the grieving process, and cultivate safe spaces for cherished memories.

Access to Expertise: Not only are Muldowney Memorial Celebrants trained and experienced celebrants who love their job but they also have access (thanks to the MM Events Team) to a wide range of expertise including AudioVisual Support, Catering, a wide variety of Venues, Florists, Funeral Directors and more.

The role of a Muldowney Memorial Celebrant involves providing a personalized funeral service, memorial service, or tribute tailored to reflect the personality and lifestyle of the departed. This is achieved through consultations with the family and coordination with the funeral home.

A Problem: Serving as both a funeral director and a Celebrant for the same family presents an immense challenge. Both roles demand substantial time and attention to distinct responsibilities. Celebrants, on average, invest 8-10 hours in preparing a service, encompassing meetings with the family, crafting the service, and conducting the service itself. Simultaneously, funeral directors juggle numerous tasks related to the service while managing calls and tending to other families in need. Given these demands, it is nearly always better for everyone involved if the work of a Celebrant is outsourced.

In conclusion, Celebrants are devoted to the fundamental principle of crafting a tribute that resonates with the unique lifestyle and convictions of the individual, ensuring that the service is a meaningful reflection of their life and values.


Tuesday 12 December 2023

Shane MacGowan's Funeral - A Fairytale of New York


"Fairytale of New York" is a song written by and recorded by London-based band the Pogues, featuring singer-songwriter Kirsty MacColl on vocals. 

If you don’t know the song, it is an Irish folk-style ballad and was written as a duet, with the Pogues' singer Shane MacGowan taking the role of the male character and Kirsty MacColl playing the female character. 

It was originally released as a single on 23 November 1987 and later featured on the Pogues' 1988 album 'If I Should Fall from Grace with God'. It is frequently cited as the best Christmas song of all time in various television, radio, and magazine-related polls.

A reading from the songbook of Shane MacGowan:

It was Christmas Eve, babe, in the drunk tank

An old man said to me, “Won’t see another one”

And then he sang a song: “The Rare Old Mountain Dew”

I turned my face away and dreamed about you

Sadly this year we lost Shane MacGowan, an incredible and poignant soulful Irish singer. MacGowan would have turned 66 on Christmas Day. Both singers of the song Kirsty and Shane have now passed. 

Much like the haunting melodies and poignant lyrics of "Fairytale of New York," grief can evoke a myriad of emotions—sadness, nostalgia, anger, and even a touch of bittersweet humor.

The song's melodic verses capture the essence of this emotional journey—a tale of shattered dreams, dashed hopes, and the yearning for something more. Just as the characters in the song grapple with their past and present, we too navigate the intricate pathways of grief. We remember moments of joy and love, only to be reminded of their absence.  It's in these moments of raw vulnerability that we learn the true strength of the human spirit. The song's poignant narrative resonates, depicting the struggle to find solace and hope in the midst of despair. Yet, within the depths of sorrow, there's a profound beauty—a beauty that arises from the memories shared and the love that transcends time. 

Shane's funeral took place in his home place of Nenagh, Co Tipperary with Father Pat Gilbert, the local priest overseeing the service and it was filled with incredible readings, prayers and music that filled the church of St. Mary of the Rosary

(It is, and was, an incredible testament to how the Irish 'do' funerals. People dancing in the aisles, laughing, crying and memorializing. We at Muldowney Memorials try to bring that Irish spirit of celebrating a life while mourning a loss into every service that we do. It was lovely to see our dear friends Green Graveyard/Green Coffins on display too showcasing Irish artisans) Shane's funeral epitomized this equal life celebration and mourning of the incredible musician and man that he was.)

Infamous actor Johnny Depp read the first Prayer of the Faithful (see below). There were readings from incredible “Game of Thrones” Irish actor Aiden Gillen and former Irish Political leader (Sinn Fรฉin) Gerry Adams. 

“We pray for a deeper spirit of compassion in the world....May we feel the pain of others, understand their need and reach out to all who suffer in any way with a continuous love that is rooted in faith and peace. Lord, hear us.” ~ Johnny Depp - Prayer of the Faithful


Spoken words were interspersed with beautiful renditions of Shane MacGowan’s music including:

  • Nick Cave performed “A Rainy Night in Soho” accompanied by Colm Mac Con Iomaire on the fiddle and Glen Hansard on guitar. 
  • MacGowan’s former bandmate, Cรกit O’Riordan, sang The Pogues’s traditional song ‘A Man You Don’t Meet Everyday’ alongside Irish folk musician, John Francis Flynn. 
  • Glen Hansard and Lisa O'Neill sang “Fairytale of New York.” (see below video)
  • Irish singers Mundy and Camille O'Sullivan sang "Haunted" - a duet that MacGowan recorded with the late Sinead O'Connor who also died earlier this year. Mundy described his performance at the Mass as "a moment I'll never forget"
  • Four of the surviving Pogues - Jem Finer, Terry Woods, Spider Stacy, and James Fearnley, performed the Funeral Service finale “The Parting Glass.” (see below video)
  • The funeral procession that began that morning in Dublin and ended at the church paused at one point as the infamous Artane Band, (a marching band of young musicians) played an instrumental “Fairytale of New York,” while the local Irish crowd sang along. Along the route, other impromptu musicians performed “Dirty Old Town,” which was first recorded by an English folk singer called Ewan MacColl but later made famous by Shane's band The Pogues and others played The Pogues “A Pair of Brown Eyes.”

Coffin/Casket was by our dear friends Green Coffins Ireland

Also as part of the funeral service, Shane MacGowan’s wife, Victoria May Clarke, presented some tokens/symbols in an offering which included:

  • His Crock of Gold book 
  • A Buddha
  • Book of James Joyce’s Finnegans Wake
  • A Led Zeppelin album
  • His wedding photo with Victoria
  • And a tray that Pogues member Spider Stacy would sometimes “bash over Shane’s head” 


She said:

“so many beautiful people are pouring their hearts and souls into making it magnificent and magical and memorable for him and for us who are left behind.”


It's a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there's a glimmer of light, 

a hope that sustains us through the storm.


Fairytale of New York

As we listen to the verses of "Fairytale of New York," let us acknowledge that grief is not a linear journey. It's an unpredictable dance between heartache and healing. Just like the song's lyrics paint a vivid picture of life's struggles, grief, too, paints a canvas of emotions that make us human.

May the song's melody serve as a reminder that amidst the pain, there's a harmony waiting to be heard—a melody of love, resilience, and the enduring spirit that helps us navigate the intricate notes of grief. 

Let us cherish the memories, honor the past, and find solace in the love that remains.


Parting Glass

“Shane’s veins ran with Irish blood,” Shane's sister Siobhan said. 

“Shane, you did what you dreamed, You did what you said were going to do in those long ago days in Tipperary, and you did it with such heart and fire – a fire that is not dimmed by death.”